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Building (and Rebuilding) Trust

Building (and Rebuilding) Trust

In one season or another, every one of us has needed to either build or rebuild trust. The issue of trust is a human issue. Building it is crucial to every budding relationship, and rebuilding it is crucial to every damaged one. So, how do we build or rebuild trust? They didn't teach me math in seminary, but over the years, I have used this formula:

TRUST = (Truth + Transparency) * Time

Resolving Conflict God's Way

Resolving Conflict God's Way

In Matthew 18:15–20, Jesus outlines a very clear and specific way for conflict to be addressed. This is based upon that fact that relationships between people are very important to God. Especially as leaders, we should have the maturity to follow Christ's powerful wisdom in this area. So, here are four steps involved in Jesus’s reconciliation process.

UBA's Top 10 Articles of 2018

UBA's Top 10 Articles of 2018

2018 has brought a lot of things our way: heavy losses, exciting possibilities, and hard discussions. Likewise, our blog also had a lot of fascinating and pertinent articles for the year. As we prepare for what God has in store for 2019, we'll first pause to remember and celebrate the top 10 articles of 2018.

Does Your False Self Preach a False Gospel?

Does Your False Self Preach a False Gospel?

We all have different masks—or false selves—we put on, versions of ourself we wish were true. These identities can range anywhere from helpful, to innocuous, to even detrimental to our spiritual health. Let’s take a moment to examine the dangerous false selves we present and how they might damage not only our walk with Christ but also our witness and community.

Engaging the Issue of Domestic Violence

Engaging the Issue of Domestic Violence

I’ve never been a victim of domestic violence, but I have literally heard the cries of victims for help. Before joining the staff of UBA in 2005, I was the Volunteer Coordinator for The Bridge Over Troubled Waters. Like every person at The Bridge, part of my employee orientation was to listen to 30 minutes of 911 calls from people in the midst of domestic disturbances who were crying for help—some who were uttering their last words on Earth.

Breaking the Cycle—Meet the Speakers

Breaking the Cycle—Meet the Speakers

This month, UBA is hosting a free seminar to teach pastors, church leaders, and everyone in our communities more about domestic violence—what it is, how to respond, and how the break the cycle we see both inside and outside the church. It will be in both English and Spanish September 20th, 9-12pm at Ecclesia Houston. This seminar is going to be a challenging time for everyone and will feature two incredible and experienced speakers—Debbie Moseley & Adam Mason.

Register Here

Rompiendo el Ciclo de Abuso

Rompiendo el Ciclo de Abuso

María y su familia eran miembros de lo que ella considera una iglesia hispana saludable. Pero, llorando en mi oficina de consejería, compartió la historia de abusos que su hija sufrió y la respuesta inimaginable de los líderes de su iglesia.

Maria and her family were members of what she considers a healthy Hispanic church but, as she sobs in my counseling office, she shared her daughter’s story of abuse and the unthinkable response from her church leaders.

Breaking the Cycle of Domestic Violence

Breaking the Cycle of Domestic Violence

I have a confession: I only really started thinking about domestic violence lately because UBA is hosting an event this September. I fear my apathy is fairly commonplace in our churches, too. So, here we are with some information about domestic violence. Though we have to fight to keep and protect a soft heart these days, I pray we will do just that.